Last week I went to the doctor and was diagnosed with TMJ caused most likely from my anxiety. I was frustrated with this because I have been trying to really take control of my anxiety issues. Once again, he started asking me what’s going on and really trying to get to the root of the problem. What became clear to me after that appointment was another big a-ha moment.
I take other people’s problems as seriously as my own.
The people I am around on a daily basis are all individuals I care for immensely. They hurt, I hurt. They are mad at someone, I am mad at someone. The examples can go on and on. They have something wrong I want to fix it.
But how can I fix someone else when I cannot even fix myself?
It is easier to focus on others when you are trying to avoid yourself. I want everyone to be happy.
I need to learn that I can’t always be the rock.
My wonderful husband really tries to help me, and he is the rock that keeps me as put together as I am. He knows as much as I do that I really need to start taking stock in what is important.
I need to learn to let go.
Not being the one to save the day does not mean I do not care about someone. I can listen, give advice if asked, but I don’t need to take ownership of others emotions.
It is easier said than done, but I have to take control. I have to learn to filter and continue to adapt who I am. I need to realize that I have an amazing support system around me filled with people that would do anything for me.
I need to continue to remind myself how blessed I am. That my worries can be silly at times. That not everything is worth getting stressed over. I need to laugh, enjoy and just live in the moment.
I need to stop living for tomorrow when today is not even over yet.
I have faith that you’ll get there girl. It takes one step at a time but you have to fight your anxiety demons. Thinking of you.
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Thank you sweet friend. It is a battle worth fighting.
Thank you so much for your kind words. Bug hugs.
I understand what your going through even though I don’t have anxiety like you do. I’m a chronic worrier and I to feel obligated to fix everyone’s’ problems. I had to learn to let go though because I had a bad breakdown my last semester of college from trying to do to much, too quickly.
I’m always here if you need someone.
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Taking time is so important. Thank you so much for the kind words.
Amen sister! I think it happens when you have so much love to give, it over flows and you want to shelter everyone from pain of hurting…except some that’s a heavy weight, sheltering…and it often takes sometime to realize that people need to be given the right to build their own shelters to truly appreciate it…
Good luck on your journey to wellness!
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This comment is spot on. You are so right. Thank you for your beautiful words of encouragement.
Anxiety can really put a damper on life, but I am a firm believer that baby steps are huge stepping stones to the end result. So hang in there and slowly but surely, you will get better every day.
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That is totally true. One day at a time.
Some of us feel the need to fix everything and have a hard time stepping back and letting those people handle things themselves with just our words of advice. I fight this battle myself to an extent. Hang in there and take it one small step at a time. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and our lives aren’t either. It’s a continuous process of living and learning.
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You are so right. I LOVE you analogy that you used about Rome. It is SO true.
I want to help fix people to. But then I remember, you know what…I can’t. I have to take care of myself. I can love and support and lend an ear when needed. But I have to know that it’s not my problem. I’ve for sure got enough of my own.
Hang in there girl! You aren’t alone!
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It is hard to separate and learn that lesson. One day at a time and continuos focus on learning to delegate for sure.
I have been through times in my life when anxiety was a constant battle…like the last line of your post said, I was living the the future. What might be, what might happen, all of the uncertainties filled my head. I am glad to say that I am not in that place right now; a lot of it being due to career change but I know how hard it can be. I am thinking of you and sending calming vibes your way!
Thank you so much. Your kind words of encouragement mean more than you know.
I am reading One Thousand GIfts right now and it’s about exactly what you’re talking about! So much to appreciate in the moment!
I will need to check this out for sure.
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